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If, when the time has come for a commitment, he is not man enough to ask her to marry him, she should give him no reason to presume that she belongs to him.” ― “Until the will and the affections are brought under the authority of Christ, we have not begun to understand, let alone accept, His Lordship.
The Cross, as it enters the love life, will reveal the heart’s truth.” ― “If God gave it to me," we say "it's mine. The truth is that it is ours to thank Him for and ours to offer back to Him, ours to relinquish, ours to lose, ours to let go of - if we want to find our true selves, if we want real Life, if our hearts are set on glory.” ― “We are always held in the love of God.
” ― “I took it for granted that there must be a few men left in the world who had that kind of strength.
I assumed that those men would also be looking for women with principle. "You get what you pay for.” ― “Our vision is so limited we can hardly imagine a love that does not show itself in protection from suffering. It stands in the very teeth of suffering.” ― “I am convinced that the human heart hungers for constancy.
A notable element in Elliot’s repertoire is her advice on Christian dating and relationships, which are boiled down into a palatable form in two books, . Elliot’s and Harris’ books advocate “courtship” over “dating,” believing that, as Don Raunikar put it, “Christian dating is an oxymoron.”  Over against “dating,” these authors seek to define “courtship” as a patient, prayerful process in which a couple more or less never escapes the supervision of a Christian chaperone.
As a missionary who has spent many weeks exploring Ecuador, I was well aware of the “Palm Beach” canon, which includes a shelf-full of books and two documentaries—most notably the works of Elisabeth Elliot and Steve Saint—related to the martyrdom of five men seeking to reach the then-untouchable Huaorani of the Ecuadorean jungle.
 Jim Elliot reasons in his journal, for example, that language school would be impossible while married.
I have spent much of my married life in language school, and I can’t say that I found this argument convincing; to Jim Elliot, though, it was such a conviction, that he required his fiancée to learn Quichua for the mission field before he would marry her.
Just a few days ago, I read of James Calvert, famous missionary to Fiji: Early in 1838, it was resolved to send men to reinforce the mission to the Fiji Islands, and the missionary committee, unexpectedly finding themselves able to send three [missionaries] instead of two, called upon Mr. Forthwith he consented, and went down to Buckinghamshire and asked Miss Fowler to share his lot. The Bible warns against both hastiness and delay in the specific context of marriage (Song of Songs, 1 Corinthians 7).
The proposal was sudden, but probably not altogether unexpected. Jim Elliot was disdainful of marriage ceremonies in general.
I must learn to relinquish the control I might wield over somebody else if the decision properly belongs to him. If ‘times’ have changed, have human longings changed, too? I am convinced that the human heart hungers for constancy.