Dating unavailable men psychology
Furthermore, it's equally important to asses the other areas of your life. Regardless of whether you want to help someone or validate your own self-worth, is it really worth it to feel like crap over someone who most likely doesn’t even care? I know it can be annoying to hear that it may take some patience, but at the end of the day, when you finally break the habit, you’ll find yourself in the relationship that you deserve.
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I talked to several experts for their advice on how to stop dating emotionally unavailable people.
Here’s what they had to say: If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, then you know what the dark side looks like, Esther Boykin, licensed psychotherapist and CEO of Group Therapy Associates tells Bustle.
But when a pattern emerges, it may be time to schedule a little one-on-one time with a therapist.”According to Boykin, the likelihood is that there's something appealing to you about their lack of emotional depth.
When you give your all into a relationship or to someone who isn’t giving anything back in return, it sucks, but it's also a hard pattern to break — but you can certainly do it.
According to Psychology Today, women who fall for unavailable people have some “profound insecurities and self-esteem issues.” It sounds harsh, but the thinking is that women continuously pursue emotionally unavailable partners with one unconscious motive: When the guy or girl finally comes around and commits, she’ll be somehow validated. While it may indicate self-esteem issues, it also showcases perseverance.
As psychotherapist and relationship coach, Rachel Dack tells Bustle, “The way you feel about yourself directly affects your relationships with others and your dating life.
When you feel confident and able to attract a great partner, you are no longer willing to accept anything less.”Dack suggests mastering a skill, participating in hobbies and interests, utilizing healthy self-care patterns such as exercising and getting more sleep.
Constant texting can lead to false hope that a relationship might ensue.