Dating a girl with borderline personality disorder
“To say that this relationship has been a roller coaster would be an understatement.There are times [when our relationship] has plummeted to the depths whereby we were both ready to give up.” Between the periods of elation and bliss come what Paddy calls “bad phases.” “Sometimes among the arguments, the fits of anger and rage, the distrust, the paranoia, the mood swings, it seems like my girlfriend is a completely different person.” In the worst of times, he likens dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder to having a relationship with someone who has dementia.Here’s the pattern I’ve tracked, and you can let me know if yours is similar: Phase 1: It all starts with my idolizing the guy. Suddenly he’s perfect, we’re perfect for each other, everything’s so flipping perfect.I ride on the high of a new and dazzling possibility. Phase 2: He does something to rock my faith in the relationship. I’m terrified that this person who I was so sure would fix the emptiness I live with every day is going to leave me and it will hurt.Even if it means dragging myself through the agonizing process of trial and error a hundred times over. Relationships require work, compromise, communication, empathy, and understanding.His cute little gestures produce only temporary bliss on my part.
Eventually, even the rage will succumb to it, and I’ll start looking for love again, desperately.Things become even more complicated if you are dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).While the beginnings of a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder might take you to the greatest euphoric heights imaginable, it can also take you to the lowest lows.Treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder varies for each person, but with the right amount of care, work, dedication, and love, your relationship can even survive BPD. Nine months into their relationship, he and his girlfriend have moved past the early days of butterflies and uncertainty and have begun developing a true bond, the kind that begins to take hold when you become familiar with each other, learn each other’s rhythms, and begin to truly see each other.