Dating a casual friend
I'm not talking about completely rewiring your brain.
There's nothing wrong with having serious relationships; clearly, they are just great...
Dating lightly is just a different kind of romance altogether. My name is Beca and up until relatively recently, I was a serial monogamist.I hopped from serious relationship to serious relationship, racking up a surprisingly high number of "meaningful" relationships at a young age.Let your friend know that you care about him if you want to turn your relationship into something that's more serious, suggests psychotherapist Ken Page in his article "Seduction Strategies Don't Lead to Love -- These Skills Do" on the Psychology Today web site. For example, if you regularly watch DVDs together and order pizza at her house, hit the town for a dinner at a fancy restaurant and then go dancing. Ask each other if you just want to casually date or are looking to get serious.If you're already close friends, you may have done the groundwork for forming a committed relationship well before you decided to start dating.
I needed to do all that dating before I was ready to be part of a Relationship. If you're a serial monogamist and you're trying to keep things chill with a new person, here's exactly how you do it: Open communication is traditionally regarded as super important in any kind of relationship, no matter how serious it is. Sorry, there's no way around it: Your relationship with someone—whether it's a one-night stand or a marriage—will be pretty fucked if you can't get onboard with being as honest as possible. If you're dating one person exclusively, no matter how casual you want to keep things, they can't stay that way. I'm sorry, because I'm sure you want to protest right now, but I stand by this assessment: If you are only dating one person for long enough, no attempts to keep things light and easy, no matter how earnest, will effectively prevent that person from turning into a monogamous paramour.